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This week's Torah portion Shelach recounts the story of the spies sent by Moshe to scout the Land of Cana'an before Am Yisrael enter the land. The tale takes a tragic turn as the majority of the spies return with a negative report, instilling fear and doubt in the hearts of the people.

The spies were chosen from each of the twelve tribes and tasked with assessing the land's inhabitants, resources, and fortifications. While they returned with physical evidence of the land's abundance, they also brought back a distorted narrative.
Ten of the spies exaggerated the difficulties they encountered, painting a bleak picture of the land and its inhabitants. Their fear-driven report convinced the Israelites that they would be unable to conquer the land, leading to widespread despair and rebellion against G-d's promise.

This episode highlights the power of our own perceptions and how our fears and insecurities can color our understanding of reality. The spies' report was not objective and might have been influenced by their own doubts and self-limiting beliefs.
When our own fears and insecurities cloud our judgment, we can try to approach situations with openness and awareness of our emotional baggage.

Mindfulness can help us overcome these challenges and fears and help us cultivate resilience. By staying present in each moment, we can make conscious choices rather than being swayed by our insecurities or internal struggles.

Mindfulness invites us to be present with our fears- with compassion and curiosity-rather than running away from them.
Our brains are wired to focus on fear as a method of ensuring our survival.
For cavemen, this was very useful to protect them from danger, such as life-threatening animals. We, on the other hand, are not threatened by literal death on a daily basis.
Fear takes us out of our bodies and limits our reactions. It can stop us from participating more fully in life. When fear comes -- breathe and let go; when fear knocks at the door -- invite it in to share a cup of tea as the poet Rumi would say in his poem The Guest House (full poem below).
Today, we will explore being with and accepting uncomfortable feelings or sensations such as fear or body discomfort.

Let's try this short practice:

Find a comfortable seated position, allowing your body to relax. Gently close your eyes and bring your attention to your breath. Take a few deep breaths, breathing in deeply through your nose, and exhaling fully through your mouth. Where do you feel your breath most? In your nostrils? In your chest? In your stomach? Let your attention rest in the place in your body that you feel the breath the most. (pause)

Now, shift your focus to your body. Tune in to any sensations of discomfort such as tension, heaviness, tingling, heat or unease that you may be experiencing. Notice where in your body you feel these sensations. Allow yourself to acknowledge them without judgment or resistance. If you aren't aware of any sensations, then notice that. (pause)

As you continue to breathe, imagine sending your breath to the areas in your body where you're experiencing discomfort. With each inhale, visualize your breath as a soothing, healing energy that surrounds and embraces these sensations. As you exhale, imagine releasing any tension or resistance, allowing yourself to fully accept whatever you are experiencing right now. (pause)

Now, bring your attention to your thoughts and emotions. Notice any fears, worries about the future or regrets about the past, or any negative thoughts that may be arising. Instead of pushing them away or getting caught up in them, practice observing them from a place of non-judgmental awareness, so noticing, but not judging, “this is good or bad.” (pause)

As you continue to observe your thoughts and emotions, remind yourself that they are temporary and ever-changing. They do not define you. Embrace a sense of openness and curiosity, exploring these uncomfortable sensations with compassion and acceptance. (pause)
Now, shift your attention back to your breath. Use your breath as an anchor to stay present in the moment. With each inhale, breathe in a sense of acceptance and compassion. With each exhale, let go of any resistance or discomfort, allowing yourself to be fully present with what arises. (pause)

As we near the end of this practice, take a moment to appreciate your ability to face and be present with uncomfortable feelings and sensations. Acknowledge the strength and courage it takes to meet these experiences with mindfulness and compassion.
When you're ready, slowly open your eyes and bring your attention back to the space you're in.
Carry this sense of mindfulness and acceptance with you as you navigate through your day, remembering that you have the ability to meet discomfort with presence and compassion.

The story of the spies serves as a lesson for us, urging us to examine our own tendencies to misinterpret events due to our fears and insecurities, something that can impact all our relationships and well-being. By cultivating self-awareness, compassion, and resilience, we can navigate through challenging situations with clarity, and react in more healthy ways.

May you find peace and strength in embracing all aspects of your experience.

How to Overcome Your Fears


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The Guest House , Jalaluddin Rumi (translation by Coleman Barks)


This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes As an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they're a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.




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Updated: Sep 15, 2025

What We Can Learn From Pesach Sheni: Mindfulness and Second Chances

In this week's Torah portion Beha'alotecha, we encounter a unique event known as Pesach Sheni, or the "Second Passover."

According to the Book of Numbers (9:1-14), the Israelites were instructed to observe the Passover festival on the fourteenth day of the first month of Nisan. However, some people found themselves ritually impure and unable to participate in the Pesach Offerings. And yet they didn’t want to miss out, so they approached Moshe, seeking guidance and a chance to partake in the Pesach offering.

In their genuine yearning for connection and desire to make up for missing out, they petition Moshe, who then turns to G-d for an answer. The divine response was surprising: a second chance was granted. A new date was established, exactly one month later, on which these individuals could bring their Passover offerings and fully partake in the ritual offerings.

Pesach Sheni teaches us that redemption and growth are not limited to a single moment, but rather an ongoing journey. Sometimes we just need to be open to new possibilities.

This significant event carries profound implications for our daily lives. It serves as a reminder that we are not defined by our failures or missed opportunities but rather by our capacity to learn, grow, and seize new chances that come our way.


The people who missed the Pesach Offering were not passive. They didn’t throw up their hands and say, “Too bad, we missed out.” Instead, they begged Moshe and aske assertively “why should we be kept back just because we were accidentally made impure?” (Numbers 9:7 ) "ואמרו האנשים ההמה אליו, אנחנו טמאים לנפש אדם; למה נגרע לבלתי הקריב את קרבן השם במועד בתוך במעד בתוך בני ישראל?” Mindfulness practice can help us to seize or make the most out of missed opportunities. By learning to cultivate our awareness of what we are experiencing through paying attention to our feelings, physical sensation and thoughts --with acceptance and kindness to ourselves-- we can acknowledge what we are feeling, and also not dwell on or ruminate on what could have been. We can allow ourselves to be present in the here and now, and notice and be open to possibilities around us. In our fast-paced and often chaotic lives, we may find ourselves consumed by regrets, dwelling on missed opportunities, or feeling trapped by past mistakes. However, Pesach Sheni reminds us that every day offers a new opportunity for growth and transformation. By practicing mindfulness, we develop the capacity to see beyond our perceived limitations and embrace the endless possibilities that exist in the present.

Try this short practice: Find a comfortable place to sit where you won’t be disturbed. Bring your attention to your breath. Notice the sensation of the breath entering and leaving your body. Feel the gentle rise and fall of your chest or the subtle movement of your abdomen. Allow your breath to anchor you to the present moment, grounding you in the here and now. (pause) As you continue to breathe, acknowledge any thoughts or emotions that arise. So if feelings of sadness, disappointment, or uncertainty arise as a result of any setback, difficulty or impasse you are experiencing, observe them without judgment. Recognize that it is natural to feel this way, and allow these emotions to be present without resistance. (pause) Notice any sensations in your body as you imagine the possibilities that lie ahead. Are there any areas of tension or tightness? Breathe into those areas, allowing them to soften and release. Allow yourself to be open and receptive to whatever you’re feeling in this moment.

And now remind yourself of your own resilience and inner strength. Recognize that you have overcome challenges before and have the capacity to do so again. Trust in your ability to navigate this new path and create a life that aligns with your values and aspirations. (pause) As you continue to breathe, bring your attention to the present moment. Let go of any thoughts or worries about the past or future. Instead, focus on the opportunities that exist right here, right now. What small steps can you take today to move forward and rebuild your life?

Our past limitations or circumstances needn’t define our future. What if we tried to look beyond our perceived constraints and embrace possibilities that exist now? How would you like to move on from a disappointment or misfortune in your life? Just as those who were ritually impure and unable to participate in the initial Passover offering were granted a second chance, we too can overcome obstacles and seize opportunities for personal and spiritual development. Pesach Sheni serves as a powerful reminder that second chances and taking a new path are inherent in our daily lives. Mindfulness can help us to be fully present and learn from our past experiences, recognize these openings, and create a future filled with growth and possibility.


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Updated: Sep 15, 2025

Lessons from Shavuot


Tomorrow we celebrate the holiday of Shavuot, which literally means” weeks” and marks the end of the seven weeks of counting of the Omer that started on Pesach.

We celebrate receiving the Torah on Mount Sinai by learning Torah, and some stay up all night to learn. The Torah refers to Shavuot as חג קציר (Festival of Reaping),an agricultural holiday when the wheat was harvested in the Spring .

It’s also referred to as Chag Aviv (the Spring Festival) which marks the beginning of the new planting season.

The Torah also mentions the holiday as Yom HaBikkurim, when people would bring Bikkurim or offerings of their first and best fruits as an offering to the Temple.


Shavuot requires no special preparation, unlike other holidays such as building a Sukkah or cleaning out our chametz for Pesach.

Besides counting the omer, how else can we prepare ourselves more to connect to the holiday? What other significance might we find in Shavuot?

Out of many themes and explanations of the holiday, there is also an idea of receiving (the Torah) and also of giving (from our finest fruits and the seven species of the Land of Israel).

We received –and continue to receive– this gift of laws with love and we also are meant to give wholeheartedly.

Many of us are better at giving than we are at receiving.

In many cultures and religions, giving is encouraged and even commanded, but receiving? Not so much.

Maybe we were brought up to believe that It is a sign of weakness or selfishness to receive and we should be self-reliant. Maybe we don’t feel worthy. And maybe we don’t trust the giver’s intentions.


Do you feel embarrassed when you get a compliment? Do you discount what the person says?

Are you uncomfortable in accepting gifts and find yourself saying, "You shouldn’t have”?

How do you respond when someone offers to help you? Do you feel awkward or tense in your body?

Receiving from others increases the feeling of connection to them.

It deepens our relationships and makes them less one-sided and more reciprocal.

And it makes the other person feel good too!


Family therapist and author John Amodeo writes about mindfulness and how to deepen relationships. He offers a couple explanations as to why it’s hard for some us to receive in his book, Dancing with Fire: A Mindful Way to Loving Relationships”

Receiving creates connection. Prioritizing giving over receiving may be a way to keep people distant and our hearts protected. Receiving allows us to get closer to someone.

Letting Go- when we give, we’re in control in a certain way. It might be easy to offer a kind word or buy someone flowers, but can we allow ourselves to surrender to the good feeling of receiving a gift?

Receiving invites us to display a vulnerable part of ourselves.

That’s not so easy for some people.

When we receive gracefully, we are allowing the giver a chance to give, and we are allowing both ourselves and them blessings. And this enables a real connection.

When we received the Torah on Mt Sinai, there was a reciprocal giving and receiving, and a brit (covenant) was made, allowing for a deep and loving relationship between G-d and Am Yisrael.

How would you like to respond the next time someone offers you a compliment, a gift or some help? Are you avoiding a closer connection with people around you?

Imagine receiving with more ease and with an open heart the next opportunity that comes along, and forming a deeper connection to that person.


John Amadeo writes:


“The parched earth can’t let in a life-giving rain if it is covered by plastic tarp. Without the capacity to be touched by caring and appreciation, we render these gifts less meaningful. Receiving, letting things in with heartfelt gratitude, is a gift to the giver! When we are visibly moved, it conveys that they’ve made a difference in our lives. We may then bask together in a moment in which there is no distinction between the giver and the receiver. Both people are giving and receiving in their own unique ways. This shared experience can be profoundly sacred and intimate—a moment of delectable grace.”


May you allow yourself to give AND receive with an open heart, and deepen connections to people around you on this Chag Shavuot, and always.


*This blog is dedicated to my dear husband and wonderful friends who have taught me (and continue to teach me) so much about giving AND receiving. I am blessed.


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